For the women wanting a quickie be warned. A recent study,
carried out by Durham University and published in the journal Human
Nature, found that, while men don't give two hoots if they never see
the woman again, most women would only risk a one-nighter if they feel
there's a chance of forming a long-term relationship. Almost half regretted
it afterwards with one respondent declaring she felt "dirty and
unhappy" about the whole situation.
So why do so many do it?
Experts have long reckoned that needing a casual fling has all got to do
with a woman's cycle. During the ovulatory phase (between days 10 and 18 of
the cycle), women report increased sexual desire and arousal, with a
preference for short-term partners. Of course many might retort that alcohol
plays a much bigger role than any bodily phases. But, either way, as dating
and sex take on a new cachet, there are a slew of new rules that go hand in
hand with having a booty-call buddy or one-night stand. Brave suitors (both
men and women) need to adhere to the rules strongly if they're ever going to
come out on top, so to speak ...
Rule 1: Use protection
Chances are that, if your one-night stand is willing to come home with
you, they've been willing to go home with several other suitors during the
course of their dating trajectory. This means that your fling has been
swapping a whole lot of bodily fluids with their one-nighters, so you never
know what you're going to contract. Not to mention that a third of New
Yorkers have an STD, and it's enough to force you to carry a pack of condoms
in your wallet for life.
Rule 2: Keep it casual
If you're only into it for a casual fling, keep it strictly to after
hours. Lunches, coffee dates and expensive dinners can turn the simplest
booty-call buddy into a desperado wanting to spill their emotions and have a
relationship. As one booty call expert laments, "There are no emotions
in a booty call." (She also advises avoiding cuddling, hanging out or
spending the night.)
Rule 3: Don't introduce them to your friends
There is a chance that your booty-call buddy is actually looking for a
relationship and simply using you as a stopover to domestic bliss. If you
let them meet your mates, there's a chance romance might bloom, and then
you're back to square one - no booty call in sight.
Rule 4: Don't buy your booty-call buddy gifts
The relationship should be about one thing and one thing only: late-night
sex.
Rule 5: Beware of the emotional booty call
A relationship with a booty-call buddy who has feelings for you never
ends well. Let them know from the get-go that you're not into a relationship
and, if they are, they need to go elsewhere.
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Question: Is it possible to have a one-night stand without feeling
terrible? Can it ever end well? What are your rules for booty calls?
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crabs? ewww that is sad.
Is it possible to have a one-night stand without feeling terrible? Can it ever end well?
from my point of view - sure :p
What are your rules for booty calls?
I've had so called 'booty buddies', but not really anything where I thought the other person was only into the sex.
Inevitably, you have to stop when the other wants more and you don't..
Yes, we should all use protection, but how many of you, in the heat of the moment, don't?